Relationships are one of the biggest sources of happiness or unhappiness in our life. Sam Walton founder of Walmart, and America’s wealthiest man in the 80s said on his deathbed, “I blew it” realizing that his wife had, he felt, only stayed with him out of obligation. How can we create happy, harmonious relationships and make the most of this very important area of our life?
Intimacy or “fully knowing or loving a person because of who they are” has been shown to rate highly in importance in long-term relationship. However, some struggle with intimacy. These intimacy avoidant people fear the smothering sensation they get when they are being emotionally intimate and close with people.
The range of behavior by intimacy avoidant people can range from serial daters who bounce from one relationship to another, not allowing anyone to get too close, to the hard working person who rarely gets home in time to see or interact with their loved one, to those who love and or chase an abusive partner. Intimacy avoidant people have often suffered difficult childhood experiences and have attachment issues that leave them uncomfortable with intimacy. Hypnotherapy can be immensely valuable in these situations.
Another important aspect of dating and finding love is to think about and reassess common myths surrounding love and relationships. Dating myths such as ‘It’s better to have a bad relationship than no relationship’ or ‘I can only be happy if I’m in a relationship’ can really hold us back. Despite the stigma in some circles from being single, it’s important not to begin a relationship just to be accepted. Being alone and being lonely are two very different things. And a bad relationship can be both depressing and damaging for your health.
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By Beth Sullivan